Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast
Season 1: Herpes Stigma, Disclosure, and Emotional Support
Welcome to Season 1 of the Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP) podcast. This season began with one mission: to support people navigating life after a herpes diagnosis through real, stigma-free conversations.
Whether you’re newly diagnosed or years into your journey, this archive exists to remind you—you’re not alone, and your story matters.
What You’ll Hear in Season 1:
Personal Stories: Guests share their experiences navigating herpes, dating, disclosure, and identity.
Herpes Disclosure Tips: Learn how to talk about your status with confidence and compassion.
Mental Health & Self-Worth: Explore how a diagnosis impacts your emotional health—and how to rebuild it.
Stigma-Free Language: Hear conversations that model compassionate, affirming ways to talk about STIs.
Expert Insights: Professionals in sexual health and mental health join the conversation to provide context and support.
Topics Covered:
First outbreak and diagnosis stories
Navigating relationships and dating with herpes
Finding identity beyond the stigma
Supporting others with STIs
Yoga therapy, emotional wellness, and herpes
Building community and breaking isolation
This season reflects years of lived experience, listener conversations, and lessons gathered from hundreds of interviews and peer support calls. The goal: to reduce the emotional weight of stigma, one conversation at a time.
Why This Archive Still Matters
While SPFPP is now expanding into broader conversations about emotional wellness and minimizing all forms of stigma, Season 1 will always be the foundation. These stories continue to support thousands of people every year seeking reassurance, healing, and connection.
If you’re here for herpes-specific support, you’re in the right place.
Want more tools and support?
Explore our Herpes Support Call and Yoga Therapy pages for more resources to help you navigate stigma and emotional wellness.
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SPFPP Episode 130: The Odds Are in Your Favor
If you're unsure about publicly disclosing your herpes status online, this episode is for you. Our guest shares her experiences and challenges the assumption that public disclosure always leads to rejection. Discover the three possible responses: "me too," "no thanks," or "tell me how we can be safe moving forward," and learn why liberation isn't always tied to public disclosure.

SPFPP Episode 129: Herpes is as Heavy as You Make it
Our guest shares the empowering decision to publicly disclose her herpes diagnosis, emphasizing the importance of a great support system or self-reflection through journaling. A herpes diagnosis carries an energetic weight, often influenced by how the first person receives our disclosure. Learn how to handle this weight and find strength in yourself, just like our guest.

SPFPP Episode 128: COVID-19 with HSV
In this episode, a New York-based healthcare worker with HSV shares her experience testing positive for COVID-19. We delve into the stigma similarities between the two viruses and how the pandemic re-triggered her feelings. We explore the future of virus disclosure and health histories as we navigate this new landscape. Listen to part 1 of this discussion and send in your questions for our guest's return.

SPFPP Episode 127: Passion in Action - You Me and HSV
In this episode, we explore the dynamic energy of the younger generation diagnosed with HSV, who are actively engaging in advocacy and using their experiences to uplift others. Our guest, who runs the Instagram page @YouMeAndHSV, shares their journey of compassion-driven advocacy. They focus on providing factual information about the virus and supporting others in finding resources and support.

SPFPP Episode 126: Diary of a Multi-Faceted Boss
When you publicly disclose, you give permission to those you know to tell people you don’t know.

SPFPP Episode 125: We Attract Experiences We Are Ready to Heal
Brittany Policastro joins the SPFPP podcast to share her 18-year journey with genital herpes, discussing the evolution of information and experiences over time. We delve into silent rejection in partnerships, disclosure in polyamory, and the narratives we tell ourselves. Brittany’s openness challenges us to explore and heal our own stories gently.

SPFPP Episode 124: Relationship Driven Faith - Just Keep Swinging
Mr. Sting and Mrs. Sting, hosts of the ‘Just Keep Swinging’ podcast, navigate the stigma of swinging and discuss their first STI diagnosis. They share their journey, seeking resources, and the importance of faith-driven core values in their relationship. Their story offers insights for those in the lifestyle and emphasizes that long-term navigation of an incurable STI is possible.

SPFPP Episode 123: Doing "The Work"
In this episode, I close out my introspective journey, sharing insights from my week off social media and an honest look at my dating life. I reveal a pivotal discovery made through self-reflection and the best advice I’ve ever received: knowing when to shut up. This episode emphasizes the importance of holding intention over expectation in the ongoing healing process.

Episode 122: The Size of the Relationship Determines the Size of the Grief
In this episode, we honor Nadiya Johanna Wortham and explore the intersection of trauma, grief, and mental health stigma with Grief Counselor Christine Frampus. Discussing the profound impact of suicide on survivors, Christine provides insights into supporting each other through grief and healing. This episode underscores the importance of understanding trauma, suicide, and grief in mental health.

Episode 121: Intuitive Involution
Following my newfound understanding of trauma from the previous episode, I realized I had personal healing to do. This episode serves as a guide to what it looks like to "do the work" of healing. It's an uncomfortable and frustrating process, but essential. By reconnecting with myself, I aim to better utilize my experiences to help others navigate their healing journeys.

Episode 120: The Emotions Vampire
In this episode, I reflect on the profound insights gained from Michelle Cassandra Johnson's workshop and her book, "Skill in Action." A meditation on the question "Where am I from?" transported me back to my childhood, revealing how past experiences shape our present emotions. This journey underscores the importance of centering and connecting with oneself, as emphasized in my yoga teacher training.

Episode 119: The SPFPP Gray Rule
Reflecting on personal experiences and yoga teachings, I introduce the SPFPP Gray Rule: "Others can only treat you (at best) the way they treat themselves." This episode delves into how expectations often lead to disappointment, stemming from personal narratives and relationships. Tune in to explore how shifting our mindset can change our interactions and manage disappointments.

SPFPP Episode 118: Self-Health Care
In this episode, we feature the hosts of the Inner Hoe Uprising Podcast, who share their powerful sexual healthcare experiences. At the STD Engage conference, they discussed issues such as provider discomfort, bias, and lack of proper STI testing protocol. These stories highlight the urgent need for sex-positive, empathetic, and queer-friendly healthcare providers.

SPFPP 117: Trace Your Trigger
In this episode, we discuss tracing the emotional triggers linked to your herpes diagnosis. By identifying and exploring the first and most recent occurrences of these emotions, you can uncover consistent patterns and better understand your reactions. This self-awareness can help in managing your feelings more effectively.

Episode 116: The Spiritual Significance of Herpes
In SPFPP Episode 116, "The Spiritual Significance of Herpes," we explore the emotional and spiritual aspects of living with herpes. This episode delves into themes like personal growth, the mind-body connection, and transforming stigma into resilience. Learn how Yoga Therapy can support emotional healing and discover resources to navigate herpes stigma with strength and self-acceptance.

Episode 115: Getting Real About Mental Wellness
In SPFPP Episode 115, Priscilla María, a mental health writer and speaker, joins us to discuss the nuances of mental wellness intersecting with race and sexuality. Known for her work on platforms like TheMighty and Blavity, Priscilla shares insights on recognizing mental health struggles and the importance of advocacy. Learn more at www.priscillamaria.com.

Episode 114: Slutty Solutions
In SPFPP Episode 114, Lorrae Jo, Founder of Slutty Girl Problems, joins us to discuss reclaiming the term "slut" and empowering women. We cover topics such as the We Need a Button Campaign, the importance of shame-free care, dick pics, slut-shamers, sex party etiquette, and changing the narrative around sluttiness. Enjoy this episode with the vibrant Lorrae Jo.

Episode 113: The Radical Audacity to be Yourself
In SPFPP Episode 113, David Wraith joins us to discuss the radical audacity to be oneself. As a cis-gendered heterosexual black man in the sex-positive space, David's presence and insights provide invaluable lessons on living authentically despite societal expectations. We explore themes of freedom, identity, and the challenges of embracing one's true self.

Episode 112: Sex Positive Shameless Grounds Live Heeps Hangout - A Taste of Community
In SPFPP Episode 112, we explore the deep connection between stigma and shame. Recorded live at Shameless Grounds, a sex-positive, judgment-free space, participants share their experiences with herpes, dating, and disclosure. This episode highlights the importance of creating safe spaces where people can confront and overcome shame, fostering community and self-acceptance.

Episode 111 Part 2: Live From STD Engage - Suggestive Language Serves Us All
In SPFPP Episode 111 Part 2, Public Health Nurse Tessa shares her insights on using suggestive language to effectively serve challenging communities like sex workers and inmates. Through her experiences, Tessa reveals how carefully chosen language can help overcome resistances to testing and treatment, fostering better health outcomes for these vulnerable populations.